Timely tips to ease stress during holidays?

Bring them on! My to-do list is still in October mode, how about you? As we try to balance traditions, expectations of others, and our own desires, we become weary in well doing!

For many, holidays can be a sad and stressful time.

Visions of happy holiday gatherings are replaced by the reality of those missing this year. Others caring for parents or family members are wearied by thoughts of added work. Perhaps you are among those considering skipping these preparations all together.

Relax and let me encourage you as we alleviate some of that stress.

This simple plan has often helped me to set the mood for less stress as holiday gatherings approach.  Grab your calendar and we’ll schedule some private time for an honest look at your role in upcoming holidays. (I am serious, get your calendar!) I cannot overstate how important this step is. Before adding more to our already stretched schedules, we must honestly face our personal needs and wants. Yes, I said, “consider your personal needs, too!”

Schedule an appointment with yourself in the next few days!

Seriously, you can find an hour for yourself … do it!  I do it every few months and it’s a game changer for me; however, you MUST keep the appointment.

On the day of your “appointment” with yourself, cozy up in a quiet place with a hot beverage, calendar, pen and paper. If possible quiet the phone for an hour.

1. First priority: Consider the true meaning of Thanksgiving.

What can you be thankful for? Your present surroundings? Those you love? Memories of better times? Make a list. If you have to, start your list with the obvious: fresh air to breathe, sight, a bed or chair for rest. Get the picture?

2. Consider what you personally would like to do this holiday.

Is a big meal really important to you and your family? Perhaps, it’s done out of habit or, worse yet–obligation. What will benefit your family most, your personal time and attention or all the holiday fixings? Find alternatives like bringing a dinner from the market or having a meal catered. Discover creative ways to free up your time; treasure your family.

3. Will a family member or friend be missing this year?

Do you still need to deal with that loss before the holidays?  Is there something you could do to honor them in some way? If appropriate, display a photo or keepsake in a prominent place and have a time to share memories; to laugh and cry and express honest feelings.

If you know others who are recently lost loved ones, schedule a little time to contact them. A simple card or call will do wonders; I know, I have been there.

4. Do you think your home is not ready for company?

No time or energy to clean? Remember the silly old question: how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!  So, schedule one room a week to clean and sort.  Stick to the plan–just one room or even a section at a time. As the holiday approaches your home will shine and so will you.

If you are used to decorating every nook and cranny, change it this year. Add simple decorations as you go or choose one area to lavish holiday items on and leave the rest clean and fresh as is. If need be, go back to tip number 1 and remember to be thankful for a home to share.

5. Learn to communicate your feelings with others.

Do you need help to carry out your plan? Let others know that. Are you hesitant to make changes from old traditional habits? Talk to your family; explain the necessity of making changes this year. Express excitement and positive attitude about approaching holidays; make even the minimal preparations a celebration.

Philippians 4:4 commands us to rejoice in the Lord always.

Rejoice. Determine from this day forward to proceed with your plan. Keep your focus on your goal. You truly can have the best and most meaningful holiday ever as you train yourself to focus on the positive aspects of the holidays and clear out the negative.

Hugs,

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