Building self esteem in others is easier than you may think. Today’s headlines run the gamut from bullying kids to neglecting senior adults. Those who lack self-esteem are most vulnerable. Many have never been told how special they are; that they have value and purpose.

Here are 5 keys to building self esteem in your family, friends, and even the work place. While I am using our young great-grandson and his coloring as an example, these keys will apply to all ages.  (See his signature in purple? Wow!)

1. BE SLOW TO CRITICIZE.  What did you notice first? Did you wonder why someone let that young child scribble in the book? The pride Logan shows in his finished picture could be quickly crushed if his coloring was ridiculed.
2. BE QUICK TO PRAISE.  Practice looking for good in all things. Praise young ones for finished projects. Praise older adults for not giving up; for staying strong, for their encouragement through the years.
3. LOOK FOR TEACHABLE MOMENTS. While Logan colored from his new book, his mother read these words from the facing page: “Patches says …Thank God for how He made you. Thank Him for loving you so much, just like you are.” She read Psalm 139:14 and other encouraging words from that page.
4. FOCUS ON THE PERSON, NOT THE SITUATION. Building self esteem in others can be as simple as overlooking mistakes (or our perception of them), accidents, spills, or awkward behaviors, Harsh words cut deeply and leave big scars.
5. ALLOW SELF EXPRESSION WHEN APPROPRIATE.  Can you imagine this little one as a teenager looking at the scribbles and remembering how his mother praised his work? He may laugh at the silliness of it now, but he will always remember her encouraging words and love and that he was special to her and to God.

It’s worth noting that we each see things differently through our experiences, preferences and needs. As we learn to value the individual above all else, we both are richer.

From Patches’ commentary on page 74 of Patches’ Biblical Coloring and Activity Book:  “Do you ever wish you looked differently? …. Let me tell you something that is honestly true about you: You ARE very special! God planned you … He loves you ...”

Do you know someone who needs encouraged? Patches’ book has been enjoyed in nursing homes as well as in classrooms.  Why? Because every age needs to know they are loved! Please leave a comment on Amazon.com if you have enjoyed the Biblical Coloring and Activity Book. Thanks!