We can be sure each of us will leave our worldly possessions behind; perhaps even lose the ability to make decisions on our own. Are you prepared for that? Is your family? (All ages!) Are you sure?

Three families very close to me were not. PLEASE, think about yourself and your family as I tell you about them. (Names changed). Important resources will be at the end of the article.

#1 Joe & Jane worked hard to raise several children and grandchildren.  Their well-kept home and properties were filled with heirlooms and fine furnishings. After Jane died, a family member moved in to provide care for Joe.

When Joe passed away, it was discovered there was no will, trust, or any other end-of-life preparations made. The caring family member had to find a place to live; the home and properties had to go into probate. No one was prepared to take care of end-of-life expenses or monthly bills. Numerous vehicles were now titled to the deceased only.

#2. I am praying for and helping two other families who have lost their parents and are now in turmoil with siblings who are demanding possession of more than they are entitled to. Without signed, documented papers to support decisions, it is left up to the courts to determine who gets what. In other words, the one affording the best attorney is often the winner. Please do not let this happen in your family.

If you (or family member) lose the ability to make decisions on your own; including health and well-being, who will do it for you? Will that person have the legal right to make those decisions? How will your assets and healthcare be handled?

For more information on Living Wills and Health Care Directives from Mayo Clinic, click here.

#2. My mother was very proud to still be in her home into her 80s.  However, a sudden illness put her in the hospital a few weeks before coming to live with us. Mother had all her end-of-life paperwork in order, or so we thought. As the years passed, her memory loss became serious,  While in a short-term care facility, an alert nurse encouraged us to help Mother get a Living Will or a Health Care Directive while she could still make decisions on her own. It was very, very helpful for us to know exactly what she wanted and have the authority to take care of her until she passed away at 90.

You can learn more about my care for Mother in my book, My Mother My Child. Click here for more information.

#3. I am praying for and helping two other families who have lost their parents and are now in turmoil with siblings who are demanding possession of more than they are entitled to. Without signed, documented papers to support decisions, it is left up to the courts to determine who gets what. In other words, the one affording the best attorney is often the winner. Please do not let this happen in your family.

If you lose the ability to make decisions on your own; including health and well-being, who will do it for you? Do they have the legal right to make those decisions? How will our assets and healthcare be handled?

In our culture with so many blended families, health issues, varying state and federal laws, it is imperative that you be prepared.

Certainly, I do look forward to that time when my hubby and I are reunited with Jesus! In the meantime, I want to leave only peace and contentment behind for my family and loved ones. I am doing all I can to keep each of them informed on my needs and wants. How about you and your family?

Please let me hear from you.  Below are some more great links.

Hugs,

There is a wealth of information in this Hospice link:

Dealing with emotions:

AARP Website also has valuable information for you to consider.