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5 Ways to Encourage Bereaved in 2023

God’s Greatest Gift is Jesus! God’s Greatest Creation is Family!

“And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.” Revelation 21:4

This 2nd year without my sweet Russell is harder than the last. The miss looms heavy; yet, I am comforted by God’s Word.

Join me in encouraging others on this journey. We genuinely have Good News to share. Here are tips and cautions as we enter the year God has planned for us.

#1. Think about what adjustments the individual or family is having to make. Can you help with family needs? Even the smallest help has a big impact; everyone needs to know someone cares!

Today, in the midst of a snowstorm and single-digit temps, a young neighbor stopped hauling his hay long enough to bring in my mail. He chatted for a few minutes, then took my trash to the dumpster on his way out.

#2 We were created as individuals; we do not all handle losses the same way. When you feel pressured to attend a family gathering or other event, it’s okay to say, “let me get back to you,” or “I really need to decline this time.” Should someone grieving respond to your invitation in that way, remember to honor their request.

#3 Be sensitive; some may want to talk…a lot. For others, remembering the loss is still too painful. Note: a good hug, smile, and prayer are always welcome!

For me: I needed people last week, big time! So I left the house and headed for our local Walmart to sit on a bench by the checkouts. For over two hours, God showered me with amazing visits, hugs, and prayers! God’s Amazing Grace!

Here are some inspiring verses to help you and others through the grief process.

#4. When possible, share a cherished memory. Are you aware of some way the cherished loved one encouraged or inspired you or others? I have learned so much about my sweet husband; how blessed we were to have him in our lives!

#5. Tell others how they can pray specifically for you and your family. By the same token, encourage specific prayer requests from your friends and family who are grieving. And make a list, remembering to faithfully pray.

“It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him.“ Lamentations 3:22-24

I am excited about the new year; I pray you are as well. God holds us in the palm of His loving hands. Our world has gone nuts, our losses are overwhelming, and our schedules unreal. Yet, Our Father never changes!

Let me hear from you,

Hugs,

There are No Words

Waiting for a Photo

Our Creator’s Handiwork

“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” I Corinthians 2:9

There are no words to describe God’s timing.

Teary-eyed, tired, and not anxious to face another night alone, I approached my house as the sun was sinking in the west. Across the road, a field of deer caught my eye. They stood waiting as I turned around in my driveway for a better view. Peace filled my heart and soul; I knew God’s abounding love and presence were with me and life would be okay.

There are no words to capture this moment with my son.

As my son Michael braved the chilly winds to replace my tattered American flag, I was overwhelmed by his respect for family and for our nation. He slowly lowered the weathered flag. With great care, he folded it cautiously as if the world were looking on, then solemnly handed it to me. Our eyes teared as we recalled a folded flag handed to me not so long ago.

There are no words to adequately share the memories.

For three days, I never left the house. I sorted ‘stuff’! Proudly I mustered the strength to tote four heavy bags to the dumpster; along with tattered suitcases and … well, stuff! The frustration of such accumulation was quickly eased as I thought of what riches my trash would be to those in need. Weary, worn, and blessed, I snuggled by the fireplace with a lap full of ‘treasures’ to explore.

There are no words…

I visited a church out of town Sunday. The pastor’s message from Matthew on doubt tugged at my very soul. Why am I so amazed as I go from church to church to find God always has a message to strengthen and enrich my heart and soul? Always!

There are no words to express the value of laughter.

I had no intention of stopping at a busy cafe as I headed back home Sunday. Yet, I parked in a crowded lot and was seated at a tiny table in the corner. Choosing not to join others when asked, I slowly savored my food as I listened to infectious chatter. The smiles, giggles, and laughter drew my thoughts to what it means to be a part of the family of God.

There are no words to express the love Jesus has for you.

When I think of what it means to know that I know that I know Jesus lives within my heart—wow! Seriously, there are no words. I pray often for each of you on my reader’s list; if you are ever unsure of Jesus’ unfailing love for you…contact me!

Much prayer, love, and hugs,

Finding Peace in My Storm

Peaceful Setting at Harmony Baptist Church

“You, Lord, keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3

As long as many can remember, this grand old tree faithfully shaded the church, cemetery, and road, providing a safe place for folk on Sunday and through the week. Only time will tell how many souls have found peace and rest in Jesus in the comfort of that sturdy oak.

From across the land, people gathered here to encourage one another after a funeral. Many weary travelers found rest as they picnicked in safety. Folks lingered long in its cool shade after a Sunday dinner at church; it was family time.

Today, not even a stump remains as wind and storms have taken their toll. Gone, too, are many of those pictured above including my sweet hubby. I am left with this lone photo. Precious as the memories are, it’s often not enough. I long to pull up under that old tree once more and hear the chatter. I ache to hug and be hugged by so many who have gone Home before me.

As I write today; I have to add to this dilemma the state of our country. This very day I ponder, what next will be but a memory? I really wonder, do you?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

In the midst of my peril, God’s Holy Spirit nudges my soul. He reminds me (and us) that He will never leave or forsake me. His plan is greater than I can imagine. When I miss my loved ones; and yes, even the tree, I can trust Him. When it seems we are sliding further into a sinful society, I can trust Him.

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Philippians 4:13

Click here for 101 encouraging verses.

I am praying with and for many of you who have lost loved ones this past year or so. Also, trusting God that, in His time, He will answer our prayers concerning our nation and the world.

In the meantime, let’s pray for one another and cling to the memories!

Looking forward to hearing from you; praying with and for you.

Hugs,