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Safety Tips for Homebound Families

Posted on May 31, 2014 by adminOctober 26, 2016

Safety Tips for Homebound FamiliesDid you know June is National Safety Month? It is also National Iced Tea Month, National Zoo and Aquarium Month, National Fresh Fruit and Vegetable Month, and … The next few weeks we are going to look at some of these national emphasis months and find ways to celebrate while confined indoors as we explore some new ideas.

For today, let’s tackle National Safety Month for caregiver tips. This will begin to sound more like work than fun; however, be sure to read the end for ways to celebrate! As you inspect your environment for safety issues, make it a journey, not a work detail. This will seem very over-simplified to some; even a little silly to others. Depending on who you are caring for, it can be fun as you include them.

Here are some areas to check for safety this month:

  1. Are there steps in the home or outside? Are they in good repair? Free of clutter? Adequate handrails? Are residents (young and old) protected from possible falls?
  2. Are there “throw rugs” in the home? These are aptly named—enough said! If they must be used, make sure they are large and heavy enough to stay put. Consider double carpet tape to keep them in place if needed. With Mother, I had to have runners on the floor; I told her it was because “she leaked”. I often stitched them together to make a runner for her. She loved her private walkway to the bathroom.
  3. Electric outlets. Are there adequate outlets to handle the additional equipment you may need to care for others in the home? Do you have too many things plugged in to one place? Can you move some of the equipment elsewhere? Do you need a surge protector, or to replace an existing one?
  4. Windows and screens. Are they in good repair with adequate locks on them? Do you have good blinds for nighttime?
  5. Cabinets, shelving units and desks. Are they installed properly? Are desks or free-standing shelving units too top heavy? Are they cluttered or filled with unsafe items (scissors or letter openers or liquids can be a problem for some.)
  6. Faucets and showers. Is the water easy to control? Does the temperature need to be turned down to avoid burns?
  7. Wall hangings over chairs or beds. Do you have heavy mirrors or pictures hanging where little hands or curious adults can cause them to fall? When I noticed Mother could reach behind her and feel the large oval mirror on the wall above her head, I quietly moved it the next day. It was an accident waiting to happen.

Wow! That all sounds like work to me! How can we celebrate all this “extra stuff” to be responsible for?  When you can, let your family know what you are doing during National Safety Month to improve conditions around the home. If you have little ones, let them be a part of discovering potential unsafe surroundings. Make it a contest to see who can spot unsafe places. Find coloring books (for young and old) of homes and families.

The plan I like best is to make a big, colorful list at the beginning of the month of areas that need explored for safety issues. Mark off those you deal with and plan a “June Safety Month” celebration at the end of the month with summer treats for all.

Now, if you are a caregiver in someone else’s home, you may wish to simply share this article with them. As homemakers and caregivers, we have a responsibility to help others be safe and avoid accidents when possible.

Have a safe and happy summer, enjoy God’s gift of each new day; let me hear from you.

Hugs,

Can’t wait ’til you see the next letter … because we will have fun with “June is National … “, I’m not telling you yet!

 

Posted in All Posts, Help | Tagged caregiver tips, caregivers, falls, families, mother, national safety month

Are You Helping or Hurting Suddenly Single Friends

Posted on May 18, 2014 by adminOctober 26, 2016

My world is filled with friends and relatives who find themselves suddenly single. Many have died suddenly from accidents or health issues. A surprising number of middle age and older couples have faced the devastation of betrayal or abuse and divorce. I have had opportunity to visit with several this month about what they are doing now. Of course, we touched on the subject of how others could encourage them as they make adjustments. The following suggestions (or pleas) are in the words of those I visited from age forty and up. I found them surprising and very helpful in my life as I try to be a better encourager and friend to those God puts in my path.

  1. Don’t coddle me. (I heard this more than once.) I am a grown adult, capable of living on my own and making decisions for myself. Please avoid the tendency to suddenly treat me as a helpless child.
  2. Ask me if I need or want help with certain things about the house and property. Make suggestions to me without telling me what I have to or should do. Allow me to make my own mistakes if necessary. This is a learning process for me.
  3. If our families spent time together as couples, please continue to visit me after my spouse is gone. Losing that relationship with your family simply adds to my loss. Yes, it will be different, but we can grieve and rebuild      together. I will need a familiar, safe shoulder to lean on from time to time.
  4. Do not be afraid to mention his (her) name in my presence. We can remember the good times; we can talk about our families. Do not demean that person in your conversation and do not expect me to tell you all the details. I will  open those discussions when and if I feel the need to do so.

Some of our most precious friendships are those women who have gone through fiery trials of betrayal and divorce and have come out stronger and sweeter as they have trusted God in the midst of their pain. They are comfortable visiting with either of us and have needed both a “brother” and “sister” to lean on. We treasure those relationships which are built on a common trust in a Loving Father and a peace that only He can give. My prayer for you is, whatever your circumstance right now, you have that kind of support around you. And I pray you will be ready and able to support others who need a hand up. As always, I look forward to hearing from you. Hugs, Check out more articles under the HELP tab above.

Posted in All Posts, Help | Tagged abuse and divorce, encouragement, encourager, hurting, older couples, suddenly single, suddenly single friends

5 Ways to Listen With Compassion

Posted on March 29, 2014 by adminJuly 14, 2023

          In our hectic, busy world, one of the greatest gifts you can give to your family and others in your care is to listen well. Compassionate listening is an art; it takes practice. It takes patience. It takes time.

            Charles Dickens has said: No one is useless in the world who lightens the burden of it to anyone else.  One of the best ways to lighten a load is to learn to become a good listener.

1     Try not to judge another persons reactions to a situation or give unsolicited advice. You may not relate to what the person is saying, but it is real to them. This can be tricky if you are caring for someone with memory issues; however, they need a compassionate ear.

2     Think about the person you are listening to. Consider their health and well-being. Are they confined to a chair, bed, or room for most of their time? Before you hurriedly walk away, think about the fact that you may be the only person all day that has actually taken a few minutes to listen to their story.

3     Learn to listen carefully for clues as someone talks to you. Do they sound overly concerned about what should be an insignificant matter? Could there be more to the story than is being said? Could there be hidden reasons for their concern?

4     Learn to give appropriate feedback. Instead of saying, “I know how you feel,” try saying, “That must be difficult for you.” Or simply say “I’m sorry you are feeling this way.”  As I visited with a recent widow this week, I could not say I knew how she felt even though I had experienced the loss of a husband. My experience was not hers; I can understand the hurt, but I needed to hear her story, hold her hand, and say “I’m so sorry.”

5     This last tip may seem to be the most obvious. However, it is often the most neglected. Give a smile and a gentle hug. A smile has a tremendous healing effect on everyone. Pray for the situation when appropriate; at least add the concern to your personal prayer list. A simple pat on the hand or shoulder and a genuine smile can make the day for someone. Good medicine for them–and good for you!

As you take time to really listen, you will reduce tension and build trust. I like to keep a small notebook handy to jot down concerns I have or things I want to remember for the next conversation. I need the reminders — you may not forget as I do!

You have a great week and as you listen to others, allow time to listen to Our Heavenly Father as well; He is the best Compassionate Listener!

Hugs,

Posted in All Posts, Help | Tagged compassion, family, lightens the burden, listen with compassion, listening, stress

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