Learning to Rejoice

My Fav Preacher sharing Jesus in Walmart
“Rejoice in the Lord, always. And again, I say, rejoice!” Philippians 4:4
Always, Lord? Really? My heart is breaking! It’s our wedding anniversary, and the hole in my heart grows bigger each year. And I am to rejoice?
Before I go any further, I want to chat with you who have lost a loved one, perhaps a spouse, child, sibling, parent, or friend. Each of us goes through stages of grief shaped by our own backgrounds, temperaments, and experiences. My earnest prayers are with you; the losses are great, the pain runs deep. Allow God’s love to grant you HIs peace and comfort.
This 5th year without Russell has been harder for whatever reason. The grief is huge. Winter seems colder this year; days are longer, and simple decisions are more difficult to make. And yet, I can honor him and celebrate God’s goodness because I KNOW this parting is temporary! HOME is awaiting, in God’s time.
On January 13, 2026, I chose to rejoice, to have a fun lunch with friends at the local senior center, and to celebrate our 47th anniversary. It was Bank Day (free), and the Boomer Brothers livened us up with ’50s and ’60s music. The next several hours were spent on “our” bench at Walmart. I could write books about the lives God touched as Russell sat on that bench, sharing Jesus with all who would stop by.
Here is a tiny sampling of God’s grace to a lonely old lady. I was rarely alone. Trust me, the little I share here is the tip of the iceberg!
- An elderly lady asked for one of the tiny Bibles I was giving to the kids (with the kids’ family’s permission). She is helping a restless 6yr old learn to sit still in church.
- Numerous fellas and gals paused long enough to share a praise or a serious prayer request.
- Close neighbors/friends who had moved away “just happened” to be in the neighborhood and detoured last minute to pick up something on their way out of town. What joy!
- A prayer partner sat with me for over half an hour, bringing me up to date on how God was working in her family despite difficult circumstances and personality challenges.
- A young teen who had lost my contact information was afraid she was too late to submit her drawings for the Patches’ Friendships book I am working on. Happy!
- I complimented a lady’s shirt, and she complimented my butterfly pin. She and her friend invited me to a women’s brunch in a neighboring community; this will be an ongoing relationship for sure!
- The nods, the winks, the hugs, endless!
Sweet friend, you and I are left here for a reason. Our world needs to know they are loved, prayed for, not forgotten. We all need a dose of Hope and it only comes through Jesus. I challenge you to be Jesus’ hands and feet for someone today. I promise, you will rejoice!
Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
Hugs,
Susie

From E:
I read this just shortly before the time for us to go volunteer at the warming shelter. It just made me realize how God gives our lives purpose, no matter our age or circumstances.
Going through the tough valleys prepares us to minister to those God brings across our paths. I love you, dear friend
Hugs
Thanks, E., for making time to comment. Yes, He indeed gives our lives purpose. Yours is often to encourage me. I applaud your volunteering at the warming shelter.
Oh Susie – this is sooooo very good and comes at a perfect time for my friend! She has been grieving her husband for six years, I believe she said. She needs to read this and understand this grief is ONLY TEMPORARY as you state! She says she is a Christian so hopefully, she will understand what you say! I don’t know how to minister to those who are grieving lost ones (passing or otherwise), but I love how you state it in this issue of PATCHES! Thank you so much for sharing your feelings on this because, for one, I am not there to give you hugs when needed but I know many others are! Second, because I am so clumsy and unable to share this kind of thing, your PATCHES/you, speak it well and I can let PATCHES/you help reach her. THANK YOU! You are still shadowing me and HELPING ME! I LOVE how God work that!!!!
I read this just shortly before the time for us to go volunteer at the warming shelter. It just made me realize how God gives our lives purpose, no matter our age or circumstances.
Going through the tough valleys prepares us to minister to those God brings across our paths. I love you, dear friend
Hugs
Enid
Love these heartfelt encouraging words!!
Wonderful tribute and memories. Also I need that challenge too!
Every time we pass through Buffalo, we remember meeting you and your husband many years ago at Casey’s.