5 Ways to Listen Before Responding

5 Ways to Listen before RespondingLearning to listen before responding will insure more enjoyable business and family gatherings during the holidays.

Listening involves more than merely hearing.

We are wise to learn listen. With many diversions at our fingertips, it can be difficult to focus our attention toward a single conversation. As we put forth effort to become a better listener, we benefit others as well as ourselves. You may find, as I have, some of these simple tips are easier said than done!

How you appear to the one speaking may let them know you really care.

1. Look the person in the eye as you listen. This may seem oversimplified or unnecessary, especially if you are busy meeting immediate needs and you genuinely feel you don’t have time for conversation. Pausing for even a very few seconds to look at them directly as you smile or pat a hand or shoulder is a visual sign you really do care and have their best interests in hand.

Your answers can help others communicate better.

2. Do give feedback that encourages further communication. No one wants to hear, “I know how you feel”. A better comment would be, “that must be difficult for you”. Saying “I’m so sorry you feel this way” will often help to win trust and build confidence.

There is a time to give advice, and a time to wait.

3. Learn to listen without giving advice. This can be extremely difficult, especially if you feel you understand the circumstances. Make a note if you think this is a topic that may need addressed at a later time or with others responsible for their well-being.

Learn why certain topics are repeated more than others.

4. Try not to get impatient with repeated conversations. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes; consider why these stories might be so important. Listen for clues that may help the person, family, or you as caregiver.

Most people simply want someone to love them; to genuinely care about their needs.

5. Do not judge the person by what they say. You may not relate to what is said or agree, but you can show the courtesy to listen politely.

Knowing you really care will build trust, help reduce tension, and release emotions. Taking time to listen, even for a few short minutes, will encourage further conversations and can produce life-changing results for all.

We can learn from Jesus who said, “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heaven laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me: for I am meek and ye shall find rest for your souls.”   Matthew 11:28-29


The 2nd Edition of MY MOTHER MY CHILD with new Discussion Guides is filled with practical helps and encouragement. Friends and family, young and old will find this book a valuable tool in caring for their families and end-of-life matters.

National Family Caregiver Month is November

National Family Caregiver Month is NovemberMost family caregivers also hold down regular jobs.

Did you notice the title? National Family Caregiver Month? Three of four family caregivers either work now or have been working while providing care. Two thirds have made adjustments to their work life or given up their jobs.

One in five family caregivers has had to take a leave of absence.

Most provide 20 to 40 hours a week or more. Do you know someone who is a family caregiver? Are you? What needs to happen to ease the burden and lighten the load?

Can you relate to my situation with my mother?

Because I loved Mother so much, as her caregiver, I felt a need to be personally involved in all aspects of her care. It was difficult for me to turn loose of the reigns and trust others to help.

Being a family caregiver taught me two life-changing lessons.
#1, I could not do everything myself, physically or mentally.

#2, It was well worth my time to learn from others in my situation and explore options.

There are several helps available.

Free articles, free videos and books, a safe place to dialog.

Here are two of my favorite websites for helpful ideas and solutions from those who have been there. Some offer a safe place to chat with other caregivers. Both websites are self-explanatory and very easy to navigate. Whether you have just a few minutes or an hour, you will gain from checking these out.


This website: http://www.caregiving.com is by far my favorite website for caregivers. It is a very user-friendly site and offers many choices.

There are several blogs including caring for spouses, caring for children, caring for parents, caring for grandparents, caring for 2 or 3 or 4 at once, etc. There are many free articles and videos as well as a store.

If you tire of reading, they even offer a few free games to play while you rest.

Alzheimer’s Association for more than Alzheimer’s

www.alz.org offers articles drawing clear pictures of the difference between Alzheimer’s disease and dementia. A great place to start if this is an area you have concerns about for yourself or someone in your care.

Alzheimer’s Association offers help finding geriatric resources in your area; an informative e-newsletter, and overview of Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia.
The facts are astounding, yet there is help and there is hope. I pray you will be encouraged today, and will find a way to encourage others along the path.

Have a great week, and let me hear from you.


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